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Post by FEED UP on Apr 11, 2006 23:32:37 GMT
Should I stay, go or get even?
I am married - 10 years
I am 34 years old
I have two children, a girl and boy (6 & 9)
I am English married to a Jamaican
I hold a professional job earning £50K PA
My husband also works but earns less than me (£30K), he is into the Dancehall scene and goes out clubbing now and then (mostly without me).
Over the past 5 years he has (and continues to have) affairs with other women. Most last 2-3 months, some are 1-night stands and others are telephone flirting.
Every time I find out he promises that he is going to stop. He does stop for a few months and then all the tell tell signs start again.
I am feed up now and just want a normal life, am I asking too much?
Without sounding big-headed I am a very pretty/attractive perfect size 10 toned body with curves and meat in all the right places. Is it possible that he's just sticking around because of convenience or until he finds something better? I don't know what it is, I can cook, I clean the house, take good care of the kids, etc.
Should I stay, go or get even?
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Post by I See on Apr 11, 2006 23:55:53 GMT
The problem is do you know how to keep the sex exciting
Do you know how to tease a man and keep him on his toes
or just beacuse you are marred sex will happen right
or you think no work is needed
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Post by WOW on Apr 12, 2006 14:06:54 GMT
EVEN IF YOUR SEX LIFE IS EXCITING , MEN, ESPECIALLY GREEDY MEN WILL CHEAT. AND NOTHING U CAN DO OR SAY WILL MAKE THEM STOP. RIGHT NOW YOUR HUSBAND KNOWS WHO HE HAS AT HOME BUT HE STILL WANTS TO PLAY THE FIELD. FOR HIM TO LEARN NOT TO TREAT U LIKE THAT , YOU WILL HAVE TO START LOVING YOURSELF AND SHOW HIM THAT YOU ARE THE QUEEN AND U NEED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN. PLEASE DO NOT GET ANOTHER MAN, JUST SHOW HIM WHAT YOU ARE WORTH AND WHAT KIND OF MAN YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE. IF HE STAYS THEN HE WILL APPRICIATE U MORE IF HE GOES THEN IT IS HIS BAD LUCK. GOOD LUCK GIRL REMEMBER THIS ALWAYS - HE IS DOING THIS TO YOU BECAUSE U ARE ALLOWING IT.
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Post by renee in new york on Apr 12, 2006 14:53:27 GMT
[glow=red,2,300][/glow] There comes a times when after 10 years of being married and 5 years of being cheated on when enough is enough. God did not but us on this earth to lied to, cheated on, and misused by every tom, dick & harry. In my case once was enough for me. I got rid of my husband for less than what you and FEED UP are talking about and yes we need to love ourselves first. Do not be a fool and think that this man is ever going to change his ways. These type of men think they are Gods gift to women and no matter how good the sex, how good you treat them they will always to to the woman that they think is better because of her body, how good she can suck a dick etc. I wish you the best of luck, but i hope that you take your kids and move on with your life and leave that piece of shit where he belongs in the trash. Besides if you haven't already caught something you may in the end. LEAVE NOW!!   |
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Post by GUEST on Apr 12, 2006 15:19:33 GMT
A WHA HAPEN TO RENEE IN NEW YORK, GIRL U WILL LEAVE HIM WHEN U FED - UP FE REAL. NO ONE SHOULDA TELL U WHA FE DO UNTIL U GOOD N READY. TEK CARE A U SELF AND U PICKNEY THEM. U KNOW WHAT TO DO
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Post by renee in new york on Apr 20, 2006 15:43:29 GMT
A WHA HAPEN TO RENEE IN NEW YORK, GIRL U WILL LEAVE HIM WHEN U FED - UP FE REAL. NO ONE SHOULDA TELL U WHA FE DO UNTIL U GOOD N READY. TEK CARE A U SELF AND U PICKNEY THEM. U KNOW WHAT TO DO Well maybe you have been dogged and maybe you will continue to be dogged my your man or men. but no woman deserves to be treated like a piece of shit. |
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Post by wow on Apr 21, 2006 17:31:25 GMT
No one wants to be treated like shit, but u can not force someone to leave a person until they are good n ready. i thinks thats what GUEST was trying to say.
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Post by renee in new york on Apr 21, 2006 17:38:38 GMT
No one wants to be treated like shit, but u can not force someone to leave a person until they are good n ready. i thinks thats what GUEST was trying to say. to wow. your saying that she should leave when she ready. but when it the time right? When she catches sick because he wants to put his dick in every pussy the roams London or where ever she is from. Or, should she leave knowing now that maybe she doesn't have a disease yet? Or, should she wait until she preganat with 3rd child and than she is stuck because she doesn't seem strong enough to leave now? Please WOW reply. |
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Post by renee in new york on Apr 21, 2006 17:50:22 GMT
Never seek revenge on your husband. Because you may get somethings worse than what he has done to you. God does not like ugly and believe me his just reward is about to come. he will rep what he sow. ;D   An, remember, you have given this man 10 years of your life and he has only given you 5. an, who is to say that the first 5 years he was not cheating as well. |
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Post by kay on Apr 21, 2006 18:01:55 GMT
Follow what your heart and mind tells you. Only YOU know what's the best thing to do.
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Post by Macka on May 1, 2006 22:25:00 GMT
BUN HIM, TEK MAN PON HIM, TEK DI HOUSE AN CAR AND RUN HIM!
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Post by family on May 12, 2006 1:07:26 GMT
three girls have told me that they have had sex with my husband one girl even phoned him and put him on load specker so i could hear their conversation he still say nothing happened and yes he no i was listening to the conversation because i told the girl to put me on load specker so he could hear my voice. and he still say nothing happened. so i made him leave, i pack all his tings, as for the girl she said she didnt want him or like him, i said to him how do you feel that u diss me for a girl that does not want u and i started to sex with some one else my ex that i have been with for 8 years i have been married for five but i have been care full so my husband does not suspect a ting and yes i do use condoms, if my husband was treating me better i would of stop seeing my ex a long time ago i felt so good, my husband never new that i been having sex thbaby out our marriage and he tryed hard to get back in my good books, he comes around and started to cook for me, give me money and take me out, if he was doing this in the first place i wouldnt be doing what im doing ::)
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Post by cece on May 12, 2006 15:33:41 GMT
was you vex that he cheated on you? cause really and truly you shouldn't be, afterall, you were doing they same thing. That's just my opinion.
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Post by wow on May 19, 2006 16:33:07 GMT
right, she should not be vex that he cheated on her, she mind im nuh find out bout har, trust me what goes around comes around
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Post by orico on Jul 21, 2006 23:06:10 GMT
hey people get real...men "cheat" and women "cheat" I use inverted commas because I personally don't regard it as cheating... Man will always be looking for the next woman to f**k...it's nature...Just because your married doesn't mean that you won't find other people attractive...When I was with my wife on any given day I see lots of women I'd f**k given half a chance...but I didn't
Now we're separated because she thought I was cheating on her! I wasn't! But she made a big deal out of it so after about 2 years of accusations I said f**k it and left...it's a case of d**ned if you do d**ned if you don't!
There's no point in constantly fighting your nature...you'll never be really happy...
My advice is he's never going to stop!..
what ever you do, do not "cheat" just to "get even" that's the worst possible excuse...that's just being spiteful
If he's taking care of you and the kids, and you are happy when he's with you then don't sweat it...
If you and the kids aren't happy then you've got some serious thinking to do...
One thing I would say though a married man shouldn't have one night stands at least not with strange women-he's got pussy on tap after all! If' it's a woman he's known for sometime...then hey!
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An, remember, you have given this man 10 years of your life and he has only given you 5. an, who is to say that the first 5 years he was not cheating as well.